Official: Relationship Problems v.3

[b]It's obvious that you both still have feelings for each other. It's not surprising considering the time you two were together. I'm not sure the reason you guys broke up so I can't really give specific advice on how to handle the situation. If she was the one who was in favor of ending it, yet she is still saying things like, "I love you" then it seems like she may be confused on what to do with the relationship. Do you mind me asking why you two ended it?[/b]

I would go ahead and probably move on. Saying yall miss each other n all that, it's just routine. Cut ties, and just move on. You might feel some heartache, but it's for the better.

sole- I think you should stay strong and hope for the best. If you guys are still saying you miss and love each other, something's gotta still be there you know what I mean? On the flip side if none of that was happening then I would advise you to go on, but with this I think you should wait it out and see where it takes you. I have a little dilemma myself though, any insight or thoughts would be appreciated. I've been talking and hanging out with this girl a lot and my feelings have been growing on her. I guess the problem is is that I don't know if she likes me back or not? We have our little moments and all and she seems to be down for the most but if she's trying to hide her feelings she's doing a pretty good job of it. Like we whenever we hang out I always drive her home and we just sit there and talk. There's a few times I'm over her house and it's the same, talks just endless and we're always laughing and stuff. Hugs have gotten stronger and even longer. Do you think she might be waiting for me to say something first?

[b]@misterrsquishyy I think we all get that kinda gray area with a female every now and then. It's how you handle the situation that will get you out of it. If you're shy and timid, you're most likely to wait on her to give you a clear sign that she likes you too. Waiting for a sign isn't bad, but their is a point where if you really want it you need to make the first move. I suggest doing something subtle, yet effective. Ask her on a date; movie, dinner, a simple walk in the park. If she declines; who needs her? If she accepts; you get a date, a better chance to know her, and who knows might even gain a special relationship. At the very least you were confident enough to ask her. :up: It's nothing to sweat.[/b]

[quote="Chaz-O-Velt"][b]@misterrsquishyy I think we all get that kinda gray area with a female every now and then. It's how you handle the situation that will get you out of it. If you're shy and timid, you're most likely to wait on her to give you a clear sign that she likes you too. Waiting for a sign isn't bad, but their is a point where if you really want it you need to make the first move. I suggest doing something subtle, yet effective. Ask her on a date; movie, dinner, a simple walk in the park. If she declines; who needs her? If she accepts; you get a date, a better chance to know her, and who knows might even gain a special relationship. At the very least you were confident enough to ask her. :up: It's nothing to sweat.[/b][/quote] Chaz we've actually known each other for almost 4 years now and we've been best friends since. Recently though weve started to talk and text and hang out a lot more and everything. We go out to dinner once in a while and the other day I took her out for her birthday with some friends and she loved it. That's why I'm curious to if I should just go ahead and tell her or wait. The other day she was talking about how when she had a boyfriend shed want him to make her feel special and want to always be with her, and with that, I wasn't sure if she was trying to drop hints or just saying.

[b]Tell her. I'm not one to rush things, but you've know her for four years. Having that type of relationship for that amount of time is pretty much boarderline "friend zone". You don't want to be seen as just a friend, or hear those dreaded words, "you're like a brother to me." I would have suggested you make your move a long time ago, but it's never too late. Don't put it off any longer I would suggest; if you want her go after her![/b] :up:

I feel you mean. I don't think either of us have really ever completely thought of each other in the friend zone, (who am I to think for her though) but like, kinda just I think we didn't ever think that we could see each other as boyfriend and girlfriend if you know what I mean. Before though one of my friends was sort of in a similar situation, but he got put in the friend zone bad, but then again he's not at all the same as I am. He unfortunately, heard those dreaded words. :lol: Before though, I had girlfriends and whatnot, but throughout the times we've always been close and everything. I just don't know how to bring it up. I think I may have missed my chance though. Other day before her birthday dinner, I picked her up and was just chillin' in her room waiting for her to get ready. Before we left I gave her her birthday present and she loved it and we just sat hugging each other. Bad timing I guess. :(

el oh el at this fucking thread. highschool all over again. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

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[quote="misterrsquishyy"]sole- I think you should stay strong and hope for the best. If you guys are still saying you miss and love each other, something's gotta still be there you know what I mean? On the flip side if none of that was happening then I would advise you to go on, but with this I think you should wait it out and see where it takes you. I have a little dilemma myself though, any insight or thoughts would be appreciated. I've been talking and hanging out with this girl a lot and my feelings have been growing on her. I guess the problem is is that I don't know if she likes me back or not? We have our little moments and all and she seems to be down for the most but if she's trying to hide her feelings she's doing a pretty good job of it. Like we whenever we hang out I always drive her home and we just sit there and talk. There's a few times I'm over her house and it's the same, talks just endless and we're always laughing and stuff. Hugs have gotten stronger and even longer. Do you think she might be waiting for me to say something first?[/quote] thanks for the insight bro, i def. appreciate it. but now on to your issue. All the advice I can give is that don't let this girl slip thru your hands. from what i read obviously you two have a great friendship and cherish it very much. why not bring it to the next step. the worse feeling is "wondering", your going to beat yourself up in the long run wondering what you two couldve been. so give it a chance and let whatever happen, happen. you two could be the happiest couple every, or you two could just be the great friends you are and move on with your life. theres nothing for you to lose if you never had anything at all. so be the man that you are pursue your lady! hope it helps haha